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An unintended side effect of me being in chastity - I’m excited to start the work day since that’s a guaranteed 8 hours added on to my lock up time.

At 88 now, soon to be 96!

An unintended side effect of me being in chastity - I’m excited to start the work day since that’s a guaranteed 8 hours added on to my lock up time.

At 88 now, soon to be 96!

CRAB BATTLE! Going to bed a very satisfied 80 hours locked. Is it possible I could be headed for a full week? He gave me a test today, to probe myself with a toy but not to fuck myself with it or cum or anything. I passed!

But godDAMN is my hole hungry for some cock and loads!

I’m also pretty used to this on me. It’s pretty comforting now to always feel his will close-by. 

He teases the shit out of me with pics and sexy texts and…he knows what he’s doing.

CRAB BATTLE! Going to bed a very satisfied 80 hours locked. Is it possible I could be headed for a full week? He gave me a test today, to probe myself with a toy but not to fuck myself with it or cum or anything. I passed!

But godDAMN is my hole hungry for some cock and loads!

I’m also pretty used to this on me. It’s pretty comforting now to always feel his will close-by.

He teases the shit out of me with pics and sexy texts and…he knows what he’s doing.

What the fuck do you mean my phone has a macro mode?

Man I hope no one hurts my poor bulging nuts! They’re so full of cum even the slightest pressure would probably work some out!

jyisfree:

Lick my biceps - Photo taken the 2014-09-23 - I’m 48 years old - self portrait - jyisfree

God…DAMN IT.  SO FUCKING SEXY.

jyisfree:

Lick my biceps - Photo taken the 2014-09-23 - I’m 48 years old - self portrait - jyisfree

God…DAMN IT.  SO FUCKING SEXY.

YES!  I’ve just been told I’m not getting let out tonight of my cage.  That’ll put me at 86 hours if he has me take it off when I wake up tomorrow.

You guys have no idea how many attempts at hard I get from this.

Greetings! I was curious as to how one would find out more about financial dominance relationship? Your story about Alex got me really interested. Any help would be much appreciated! Thanks!!

Just like in any fetish, there are varying degrees of involvement and various directions it can go.  There’s also the sides of giving and taking, naturally.

  • There’s the teamviewer play, like you read with Alex.  Differing degrees - for Alex, I don’t lock his computer, nor do I put a rootkit on it or viruses or anything.  Just use it to control his bank account and message him.
  • There’s use of yahoo messenger or Skype and paypal.  We message back and forth, live, explore the dynamic, maybe some webcam on either side, and tributes are given through paypal.  Also do-able with another for-pay service, like NiteFlirt with email exchange (but a little slower). 

  • Some guys like being assigned tasks.  So there’s a tiny fee for the actual assignment, and then the assignment itself.  For example, I had given out an assignment for a fella to wear his butt plug to work, and to take photo proof at a couple of points.  There are financial penalties for failure to complete it, a buy-out price if they don’t want to do it at all, and sometimes a reward for completion.
  • There’s regular tributing simply because you want to show your appreciation.  He’s not expecting much back except maybe a thanks or picture or two.  It’s more showing devotion than anything else.
  • Some guys are into blackmail.  They give up some sensitive information (phone number of their partner, parent’s email address, SSN, compromising photos, etc.)  There’s either financial conditions for the destruction of the information, the sharing/using of the information, or both.  Wouldn’t it be embarrassing if your parents got a print out of conversations you’ve had with some guy online about how excited you get from having your money taken?
  • There are some guys who are into in-kind goods.  Buying a shit-load of gifts or things online in order to show tribute or service to their guys.  Most of the things to buy aren’t even “necessary” and are more luxury items.  The idea of affording them a more luxurious lifestyle while the one paying gets less.
  • Some guys like giving up their credit card information and just never knowing when it’s going to be used.  Maybe it’s used for a small purchase online - maybe it’s used for a MAJOR purchase.  Either way, the guy giving it up won’t know until after it has happened, when its posted to his account.  This one’s a little different from the other methods as there isn’t so much instant gratification as there are with the others.  This is more like a nice little surprise! (fuck yeah I take diner’s club!)

  • There are others who want to adopt a dom’s bills.  They sign up to take care of the internet, phone bill, car payment, or mortgage.  This is again a form of service and giving of an “easier life” to another while bearing the burden oneself.

There are plenty other creative ways financial domination can be done (hypnosis and “triggers”, budgeting, predatory loans, etc).  One of the most popular forms, actually, is about the furthest I would call from “actual” financial domination.

  • GIVE ME YOUR MONEY FAGGOT.  YOU KNOW IT BELONGS TO SUPERIOR STRAIGHT ALPHA MALES LIKE MYSELF FAGGOT.  FUK U FAGGOT PAY ME PAY ME FAGGOT FUK U FUK U FUK U.  WORSHIP MY SUPERIOR SIZE 22 FEET AND ALPHA 13” COCK FUCK YOU FAGGOT I’M GONNA GO FUCK MY BITCH.

That’s literally it.  Now, sometimes it’s a guy who is gay doing that, and sometimes it’s actually a straight guy - “OOH~! To serve a straight guy must be SOOO HOT <3~!” one might think.  And for some guys, it is!  But that isn’t financial domination - it’s more of they just like money because who doesn’t?  That is to say, because you like getting anal and are gay doesn’t mean you’d like anal from a woman wearing a strap-on.  Doesn’t mean you don’t either!  I don’t know, I think the whole lusting after straight guys is equatable with straight guys wanting lesbians - it’s like maybe a thing for middle-school but something that should be put to bed quickly.

In an ideal financial domination relationship, there’s a couple of things that should happen from both parties. 

  1. One, both guys should enjoy it fully, period.  This is just like any other dom/sub relationship.

    "But Drew!  It’s not about a sub’s enjoyment, it should be the dom who has all the pleasure!  Otherwise what’s the point?!”  No, honey, read up a bit on dom/sub relationships, or better yet, try one out.  What’s going to work better - one guy exerting his will on another who is barely begrudgingly going along with it, or a guy exerting his will on another who gladly accepts it and makes active strides to make his dom’s pleasure his focus, which in turn feeds his dom’s desire to support his sub?  (HINT:  IT’S THE LATTER).

    So, there’s enjoyment on both parties of it.  And as I mentioned, ideally, your dom is into the domination aspect - the money is just the vehicle for it. I know that sounds weird, but your financial dom shouldn’t really care how much money you have.  Let that sink in a moment.  This means that the ideal dom can work with someone who is making minimum wage and someone who is making upwards of 6 digits a year.  Obviously, one is much more profitable than the other and some doms would be tempted to go for the “bigger fish” but might get more engaging connection from guys with less, actually.  That being said, you’ve got to have a hell of a connection to your dom if $0.50 is your tribute (or if that’s truly all you can afford, then you might do better do actually ask your dom for some financial advice/budgeting because if your disposable income is $0.50, you can’t really afford to be throwing that away - really!
  2. Alright, so you both enjoy it - and he’s not getting off on getting money, he’s getting off on service.  Cool.  Now, there has to be trust (which includes consent).  This is no different from any other dom/sub relationship and I think is actually even more important in these sorts of relationships because of how sensitive the topic of finances are (which is part of the appeal anyway).  Hopefully your dom is collecting information on you when you start—what your annual salary is, what your disposable income looks like, what your preferences are (slow drain or giant withdrawal), what your other fetishes are, etc.  Especially important is limits.  Any dom worth their salt will know where to skim close to limits, where to draw the line, and where to push.  That takes some experience and trust on both sides.

    For example, lets say you have ~$200 a month of disposable income.  This is money you would otherwise buy on junk food, porn subscriptions, expensive coffees at Starbucks, video games/movies you probably should just rent/buy since you’ll never play/watch them again, money for the strip club/casino, etc.  Truly disposable income - money you’re going to spend to feel better for a period of time.  Lets say you’ve decided you’re gonna spend it all on this lovely guy who seems so eager to help you spend your cash on him and it gets you hella hard and he’s starting to learn how to really talk to your dick.

    You get to doing your session, and lets say you’re doing teamviewer play, and you’re hooked into your bank account.  You get excited by watching him flit around your computer, controlling it from miles away on his own.  He’s even locked out the keyboard, so all you can do is watch him.  Your entire account is open, and he could in theory transfer all of the money you have to his account.  You’ve mentioned as much to him before and see him typing into the transfer box exactly that - your entire balance (which is well beyond the $200 you had planned on).  The thought is exciting and terrifying - losing your entire account in one go, in one draining, to this guy?  How would it feel to have an orgasm cost you over a couple thousand dollars?  The thought drives you wild and he can see you stroking faster through your webcam.

    He unlocks your keyboard and teases you:  “Man, it’s be so easy right now to just empty your account out.  From the looks of it, you’d really like that, wouldn’t you?”  You slow down.  While your dick is figuratively fucking your brain right now and the endorphins have you lit up, what’s the correct answer here?  You don’t want to displease your dom, but you’re sure he knows your limits and you’ve never seriously mentioned him draining your account totally…do you disagree?  Play along? What if he takes it as serious consent and does it?  While you’re thinking, he clicks “submit” to advance to the penultimate transfer screen.  One more click and your account’s empty.

    If you’ve got good trust with your dom, you’re right where he wants you - caught between fear and horniness with a hard dick pointing one way and a shrinking brain trying to turn the other.  If he’s a smart dom and he wants to continue to have subs, he’ll use it as a tease and back down - but still might push forward.  So maybe he pulls it back down to $220…well, wait a second, that’s still more than your usual, $220.  Before you find a way to respectfully mention this to him, he types in that he knows it more than usual, but it’s an added fee for having the rush of nearly losing your entire account.  Then he finds a way to essentially ask your permission, still from a dominant point.  Yes, doms are supposed to check in with and respect sub limits.  In impact play, this is where safety words/”red-yellow-green”/numbers come into play.  In some forms of play, the sub just calls out yellow if things are starting to get too close to their limits for their comfort, and red for stop.  Or with numbers, they call out their threshhold on a scale of 1-10 - 1 being a breeze, 10 being stop, you’ve gone too far, 5 being keep it going!

    You agree and get to stroking $220 out of your balls.  He sends the money, you cum, and everyone’s happy.  He’s pushed your limit and checks in with how you’re doing with it and the scene overall.  While those $20 weren’t part of your budget, you’re OK with it this time.  The next time he doesn’t even go there and leaves it be.  You also could have told him during the scene it wasn’t OK and he’d have backed down appropriately (maybe “sparing you” or whatever to maintain a dom position).
    But overall, there’s a level of trust between both parties.  Because if the first point I mentioned above is true (that both parties get pleasure from the actions) then both parties will likely want it to continue.  If either party doesn’t keep to their task (dom takes excessively in amounts not agreed to [so, for example, even if you’ve said “go ahead and use my credit card on whatever!” he doesn’t buy a fucking $20,000 truck without making sure it would work for you], or the sub flaking out or disputing “valid” charges or cancelling transactions they agreed to) then there is a loss of trust. 

    Now, a sub can always say no.  It’s true!  But with this sort of fetish, it’s really shitty for a sub to go through a scene, get their rocks off, and then cancel out on the dom.  At that point they’ve only considering their own pleasure and not the mutual pleasure that made that scene work initially.  That’s why I was so fucking pissed off at Alex when he decided to cancel out a transaction because it hadn’t processed yet and he wasn’t horny at the moment, well-after it had been sent.  It’s a pretty selfish demand and breaks trust.

    Trust can be rebuilt, but it is best if it is never broken!

Okay, lastly, a few quick notes on this fetish:

  • It loses a lot of the taboo if you consider the money you spend on it like what I mentioned earlier - disposable income.  If you’re willing to sink $200 into a casino and end the night with empty pockets, you still had fun right?  {Or did you seriously enter a casino to make money because if you did you’re a fucking idiot likely to be unsatisfied with the results}  It’s the same thing here - you’re gonna do something that hopefully will be fun for you (pick the right guy!) and you’ll get some pleasure out of it.  If you tally up your impulse-buys and other needless “hedonistic” purchases, you’ll probably find that you spend more money than you think on things you don’t need but do or buy anyway to feel good.  Consider this part of it.

  • The language involved.  There are varying degrees, but for the most part you have guys who are self-proclaimed alphas or superiors, sirs, or Doms, and then those who are not - which may just be loser, guy, buddy, or faggot depending on your cup of tea.  Different strokes for different folks - some guys will love nothing more than to be called a faggot, and others prefer to have their good old buddy milk some cash out of them.  Or drain your wallet/bank account of its funds.  Or maybe you’re the willing victim of a cash rape or wallet fucking.  Maybe you just spend your night tugging on the ATM between your legs (and for the love of god, if you’re a dom, don’t call it an ATM machine!) or maybe you yourself are considered a walking ATM.
  • If this seems like a great way to make money, it is - for the 2% of guys that are dedicated to it and have a hardcore following.  Otherwise, it’s an incredible investment of time, energy, and creativity that if not applied well is ultimately a waste.  Remember, money cannot be your primary pursuit in this endeavor - the domination/submissive relationship must come first.  If you’re a dom, you’ll find some very picky subs.  And they should be picky - why should they willingly throw their cash at just anyone?  They want to make sure they’re gonna get something out of it too, even if it’s just a rockin’ orgasm!  You will also get laughed out if you’re like “Hey, so I need to pay for my rent this month so uh…I FUCKING OWN YOU FAGGOTS GIVE ME YOUR MONEY YOU STUPID HOMOS.  Also, I’ve got some video games on my wishlist I would really like.  And a box set of Venture Brothers DVDs, I think it’s pretty funny.  K.  Later.”

I could go on for another billion words (actually, about 2,500 by this sentence, I believe) and maybe I will since there’s other components to the dom/sub side of this to talk about, but I think I’ve said plenty.

Hm…that’s odd.  I’m not used to giving out such valuable advice for free.  That just doesn’t seem right, does it?

;)

0453 my plastic prison reminds me who is in charge of my attempt at a satisfying erection

0453 my plastic prison reminds me who is in charge of my attempt at a satisfying erection

58 hours into my chastity and it&#8217;s time for bed. Chastity holder said I probably wouldn&#8217;t be happy with when he releases me next, so I&#8217;m not sure what that means&#8230;he knows I like this and I&#8217;m quite comfortable with it, and I love pushing my limits&#8230;but if he&#8217;s to maintain control, does that mean he&#8217;ll order contrary to what I want? Gonna stop thinking and start trusting!

58 hours into my chastity and it’s time for bed. Chastity holder said I probably wouldn’t be happy with when he releases me next, so I’m not sure what that means…he knows I like this and I’m quite comfortable with it, and I love pushing my limits…but if he’s to maintain control, does that mean he’ll order contrary to what I want? Gonna stop thinking and start trusting!

bearfoothunter:

stretching.

Fucking BEAUTIFUL

bearfoothunter:

stretching.

Fucking BEAUTIFUL

The New Normal

Through my interactions with gays I find that my “norms” are very much not everyone else’s norms.

  • What do you mean you’ve never gone bareback?
  • Pfft, “what are poppers?”  You serious?
  • Of course I can take a fist up my ass, I am gay after all, duh!
  • You’ve never had an STD?  C’mon, you’re shitting me.
  • You don’t douche?  So what do you do to prepare for bottoming?
  • I mean what hook-up site you’re on, like BBRTS, Adam4adam…Manhunt?  Dudesnude?  NONE?  How do you hook up with people?
  • You don’t hook up with people?
  • Of course I’m not eating anything for the next day and a half, I’ve got a HUGE bottoming opportunity in a day in a half!
  • You’ve never had sex for money?
  • Well, sometimes it can be really hot to clean a dude’s hole, y’know?  And shit doesn’t taste too bad once you get used to it!
  • What do you mean you don’t have any pics of your hole or cock on your phone?
  • He cheated on you?  How the fuck is that even possible?  You guys are allowed to have sex with others, right?
  • No toys?  Like at all?  No weird shapes? No animals cocks?
  • Yeah you can take photos, you just gotta send them to me too.